Happy Father’s Day

Happy Father’s Day to all my fellow Fathers out there. My Dad passed away a few years ago, but I still think of his wisdom, humour and how he was Superman to me. One of my favourite stories he told me I include for your enjoyment.

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Dad What Do You Want For Father’s Day ?

My Dad passed away a few years ago, and he was never really “on board” with the whole idea of folks fussing about him on a specific day. He did make my brothers and I do something about Father’s Day but only because he knew my Mother would have been upset (his favorite expression was always, “Don’t upset your mother”), and that is really what your Father wants, is for your Mother to be happy (don’t think I am breaking any masonic code with that truth).

If I was your Father what would I want from you? I think it’s pretty darn simple, it’s a short list of simple things you can do that will make your Dad and me happy:

  • Who the heck is that?

    I am still astounded that I am a Father

    Be better than us. Your Dad may be a hero to you, but your goal in life is to be better than him, that way Dads (as a species) keep getting better. You want to show your Father something, be better than him and that will make him happy (we are complicated beings, we Fathers).

  • Be happy. For God’s sake that is what your parents in general want, but Dads in specific. All Fathers want their family to be happy, because when they aren’t happy, we have to talk about things and discuss things (which detracts from our ability to snooze, watch sports and do things we want to do). Your Dad wants you to be happy.
  • Don’t eat the big piece of chicken. OK I stole that one from Chris Rock, but it’s true, if you are in your Father’s house, show some respect, let him have the big piece of chicken, and maybe thank him for what he has done for you (but don’t get all emotional or loud about it, your Dad is OK with, “Thanks Dad“, not some frigging singing card). Conversely your Father should show you respect in your house as well (yes respect is a two-way street).

Your Father wants to know that whatever he taught you (by act, deed or statement), has prepared (or is preparing) you for life, because we don’t want you moving back in with us. Your parents do their best to help you out, but eventually they should be allowed to live their lives too (in most cases, but we will protect our kids who need protection, as well).

Bring your Dad a beer, say “Thanks Dad“, and make sure your Mother is happy and your Dad will be happy. Oh and for the  young ladies out there, tell your boyfriends/husbands to shut up during the football games, your Dad doesn’t really want to hear their opinions either (he just wants to watch the damn game).


My Father’s World

I was very lucky to have a Father, and a very hard-working one, so when I sing this hymn at Church:

This is my Father’s world,
I rest me in the thought
Of rocks and trees, of skies and seas—
His hand the wonders wrought. —Babcock

I smile to myself thinking that while yes the Hymn speaks of God, I truly do live in my own Father’s world. If it weren’t for my Father’s examples of how to live and his hard work (yes and my Mother’s as well, don’t want to get any hate mail on that) I would not have the relatively easy life that I live.

Many of my friends have fractured relationships with their Fathers for many reasons, but it is on Father’s Day that I am thankful for my Father and that I had a good relationship with him. Was my Dad perfect? Far from it (in fact if he were alive, he would agree), but most Fathers do the best they can, and that is all we can ask from them.

Happy Father’s Day


What do Fathers Worry About?

Staying with the Fathers Day trend this week (due to it coming up on the 17th), I figured I’d help some folks out and give them a Father’s perspective on what we worry about (every day).

We worry about money, pretty much every day:

  • Enough money to get through this month?
  • Enough to pay for this year?
  • Will we|I ever pay the house off?
  • Will we|I ever retire?

Pretty simple really. I think there are some Fathers out there who aren’t “masters of their own monetary domain”, however they then worry that they don’t know anything about their money (which I think is a more insidious worry than the ones I just noted).

We also worry about our kids’ and the money they will need, or the money we will need to raise them (or get them to move out, like I said on Tuesday).

Another big worry, is when is the NFL or NHL season going to start, and why it hasn’t started yet, and why there isn’t NFL (or NHL) all year? It’s nice in Olympic years, because you have a great summer sports filler, but what do you do for the other three years? Anybody who suggests Dads should watch baseball, is wrong.  Baseball is an excuse to sit outside and drink beer, watching baseball on TV just doesn’t cut it (unless you watch it on your PVR and fast forward through all the gaps, then the game only lasts 10 minutes).

We really worry about the next boyfriend that our daughters will bring home. Will he drag his knuckles on the my hardwood floors? Will he try to talk to me during an NHL or NFL game (my kids and wife have learned not to do this, for a good reason)?  Want to know why Fathers initially loath any new boyfriend of their daughters? If you can’t figure that one out, please don’t date my daughter(s) (you are too stupid).

Our biggest worry is what to do with the tie that we get on Father’s Day. Some folks look great in a tie and can easily tie a killer double Windsor knot (Mr. Preet Banerjee for one), but most of the times we don’t wear a tie, so what can we do with them? If someone can point me to a neat site to help Fathers create pop art or other useful things with old ties, I would appreciate it.

OK, I was kidding, a lot of Fathers don’t worry that much about money.


Staycations Ain’t That Cheap

As usual my family and I are enjoying a summer stay-cation as we never really are able to plan a big summer vacation (and with everyone’s activities it is much like attempting to threading the eye of a needle with a camel). I feel a little guilty not having a big family thing going on, but as kids get older it just ends up being far too hard to pull together.

The stay-cations we end up typically pulling together are day trips or short weekend trips to either Toronto or Montreal, but even these weekends are starting to become expensive (even without hotel expenses). Gasoline prices assure all trips are at least $100 (Toronto double that), and that is not including the expense and cost of running the car (i.e. wear and tear, insurance, etc.,). Gas prices have made the stay-cation an expensive concept (unless you are doing something in town).

If you want to actually do something (aside from sitting around Grandma’s house or possibly watching Grandma’s TV) this is where another big expense can be incurred. This year we are trying out LaRonde and are buying tickets from Costco (Costco has discounted tickets for many of the great tourist sites in Ontario, like LaRonde, Canada’s Wonderland, Mont Cascades, and other places), but at the end of it the price for a day was about $175 (for a day!), and this is not including parking, and food as well (but we did save $50 on the list price with the Costco discounts).

I think the next time I look at those Disney resorts or one of those all inclusive resorts I need to keep these spending in mind.

This puts me in mind of when we went to a time share condo presentation, the sales guy Ron Don Bob Ron Don (I think that was his name) (we were there with Michael James and his wife) told us that a time share would pay for itself over time, and that if we didn’t buy a timeshare (which we didn’t) we should take all the receipts from our vacations over 20 years put them in a shoe box and then look back on these expenses and see how much it all cost.  Yes, I never did that, but it’s an interesting sales pitch.



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