For those of the male persuasion you have learned the joys of St. Valentine’s Day , and while Saint Valentine (Valentine of Rome (Valentinus presb. m. Romae) ) may have been martyr’ed in the first century his memory has caused a great deal of Financial Martyrdom for those “in love” or wishing to show love.
I realized what a huge industry Saint Valentine’s day was when I first became entwined in a romance and attempted to buy roses (the traditional thing) and found out just how expensive these plants can be at this time of year. It used to be that the prices could quadruple for long stem roses, but thanks to the open market place, the prices really only double, but are still an exorbitant cost.
Laura Secord chocolates is a nice place to visit, but giving someone you love, rich dark and sweet chocolates these days seems to be frowned on (trying to make them fat or worse drive up their blood sugar level). I like chocolate and the endorphins released eating it is wonderful for a short while too.
Blowing upwards of $200 on flowers and chocolates and then blowing $2-300 on a meal out (try to find a reservation at a restaurant on Saturday night, I dare you (no Swiss Chalet and MacDonald’s do not count)), just seems irresponsible in these hard economic times.
What to do instead?
- Do something for the “apple of your eye”: let them sleep in, clean up the house, take the kids out and give them some peace and quiet.
- Buy them a nice Toblerone Valentine’s chocolate (less than $10 I think).
- Buy a card if you want (but don’t go wild) better still write your own card with your own words or a quote like:
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.
- Go give blood, the Red Cross needs that Red Stuff in your veins, that is a good metaphor for Valentine of Rome. That shows love to someone you don’t even know.
- Spend time together at a movie (I hear the new Friday the 13th movie is coming out), or just go for a walk.
Bankrupting yourself financially is not a sign of love (it is a sign of a feeble financial mind).
What does Valentine’s Day Mean to Me?
To me Valentine’s Day has always meant love, but in a different way. It is my parents’ anniversary on that day (they have been married for 56 years), so I celebrate their lives together on that day as much as the love I have for my wife and her saintly patience.